Pornography & Sexual Addiction
Helpline for Pornography Addiction
1-800-583-2964. Trained counselors are available during business hours to help individuals addicted to pornography. Special assistance is offered to the spouses of those addicted. Sponsored by the National Coalition for the Protection of Children and Families.
Resources for Pornography Addiction
Breaking Free: 12 Steps to Sexual Purity (Booklet & eBooklet)
Breaking Free: 12 Steps to Sexual Purity (CD & MP3)
How Pornography Alters the Brain… and How to Change it Back (CD & MP3)
How to Help Families Break Free from Pornography (CD & MP3)
How to Heal Sexual Addiction (CD & MP3)
Steve Wood with Dr. Mark Lasser
Every Young Man’s Battle (DVD)
Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker
Pure Mind Scripture Memory Volume 1
Websites for Pornography Addiction
www.pureintimacy.org – A website for those struggling to overcome online pornography, as well as spouses of those struggling, sponsored by Focus on the Family.
www.sexaa.org – Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) Has group meetings throughout North America that follow the AA 12-step model. This and other 12-step groups vary in quality, depending upon leadership and make-up of the local group. Discernment is required.
www.sa.org – Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) Has group meetings throughout the world that follow the 12-step model. Quality of local chapters vary. Careful discernment is required in evaluating a local group.
Counselors for Pornography & Sexual Addiction
Dr. Mark Laaser
Dr. Mark Laaser is an Evangelical Protestant, who pledges to be respectful to Catholic beliefs and moral teaching. He has worked with numerous Catholics, including Catholic priests struggling with addictions. Dr. Mark Laaser has written two excellent books for those seeking healing from a pornography or sexual addiction: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction and L.I.F.E. Guide for Men: A Workbook for Living in Freedom Everyday in Sexual Wholeness and Integrity.Born out of their own struggles with sexual addiction and how it affected their marriage, Mark & Debbie Laaser founded an organization called Faithful & True. We recommend both their 3-5 day intensives as well as their 2 and 5 day workshops. A few days of intensive counseling will help jump start the recovery process and perhaps save six months of weekly counseling. The intensives can be attended by individual men, or a husband and wife together. The 2 or 5 day workshops, composed of 20 to 50 men, are periodically scheduled throughout the year. Like the intensives, many have found that the workshops are helpful in moving forward the recovery process. Learn more by visiting Faith & True‘s website or by calling 952-746-3880.
Dr. Douglas Weiss, in Colorado Springs , is reported to be a successful sexual addiction counselors. Dr. Weiss, a former sex addict, knows firsthand how to overcome a sexual addiction. Many have found the travel to Colorado worthwhile in order to obtain his services. Dr. Weiss is an Evangelical Protestant, so he will not hold to all of the Catholic moral teachings. Nevertheless, he will be respectful to your beliefs. His three-day intensive counseling program is designed to help those with pornography and/or sexual addictions.
Please note that websites for Dr. Laaser, Dr. Weiss and Rob Jackson require discernment but nevertheless offer substantial help to individuals and families. Discernment is also required for articles and books not related to sexual addiction recovery.
Accountability Computer Programs & Websites
Pure Mind Scripture Memory Program
How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to thy word.” Psalm 119:9. The Pure Mind Scripture Program uses the same scriptures listed in the last half of Steve Wood’s Breaking Free booklet and also used in the Pure Mind Scripture cards. Having a computer program gives you an added reinforcement using these powerful scriptures. You can configure the program to start manually, or to load automatically upon boot up. We strongly recommend the boot-up option so that the first thing you see on your computer is one of these scriptures. Every time you boot up a new scripture is automatically selected. The program can be easily uninstalled any time you wish.
X3 Watch Accountability Program
X3 Watch is a free accountability software program offered by XXXchurch.com (other organizations charge as much as $20. per month for this service) Whenever you visit a questionable site, X3 Watch saves the site name on the computer. Every 2 weeks your accountability partner will receive an email containing the questionable sites you may have visited. This report only goes to your chosen accountability partner and is not stored or used by XXXchurch.com or any other organization.
Internet Filter Review
A website that reports on the effectiveness, ease of use, and features of various software programs blocking objectionable material on the Internet. Such software is necessary for blocking Internet pornography from home and office.
Spector Pro 6.0 – Computer Monitoring Software
If there is a need for an advanced, powerful, and complete monitoring of all PC and Internet activity with ease of use, then consider Spector Pro 6.0. This PC Magazine Editor’s Choice double award winner monitors everything – even keystrokes along with a record of screen shots. Easy to use and install. For adults or youth that require comprehensive accountability software, this software is a good choice. Spectorsoft also offers a corporate network edition of its software for employee monitoring.
FEMALE SEXUAL ADDICTION
If you are a woman experiencing sexual addiction there is a 99% chance that your heart and mind are filled with shame and depression over your acts. You are not alone in your struggle. Approximately 1/3 of sexual addicts are female. It is possible to break the cycle of addictive relationships and behaviors. Don’t battle this alone. Reach out and get these valuable resources and get yourself to a Bethesda Workshop.
No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Shame (book)
A L.I.F.E. Guide for Women Living in Everyday Freedom (book)
For those women whose lives seem hopelessly out of control and filled with shame from sexual addiction will find Bethesda Workshops an oasis of hope and healing. Four or five times a year these exceptional workshops are held in Nashville, TN. Attendance is limited, so early registration is recommended. Bethesda Workshops are led by Evangelical Protestants who are respectful to Catholic beliefs. Several Catholic women have profited by attending Bethesda Workshops.
Special note: When using any Evangelical counselor or workshop do not expect to encounter a fully developed Catholic sexual morality, sacramental theology, or a complete Catholic understanding of the purposes of marriage. Also, several of these seminars and resources may positively refer to authors who see nothing wrong with masturbation, birth control, or other sins. All of the above recommendations are good sources of training for those already firmly grounded in Catholic theological and moral teaching. If you do not have such a theological and moral grounding, then consult your spiritual director before attending.